My writings have played a central role
in my healing. Many ask:
"Why are some of your writings so angry (or sad)?"
"Isn’t that much anger (or sadness) bad for you?"
"Isn’t it unhealthy to focus on such negativity?"
"Can’t you just “move on”, and remember the
"Can’t you “just” forgive them, isn’t
that what you’re supposed to do?"
"That’s your mother (or father) - aren’t you supposed
to love them?"
"Why do you believe you should “air your family’s
dirty laundry” in public?"
I believe the answers
to these questions are of paramount importance and I have addressed
My wife and I moved from Northern Maine to the Lowcountry of South
Carolina this past Spring; hence the name change from Downeast Maine
Survivors to Lowcountry Survivors. We hope this won't cause any confusion.
Both of us have changed significantly in the past few years. Things
that we thought impossible before have become part of our lives in
the present. We never cease to be suprised, nor do we stop growing.
Old fears slip away, and newer more useful attitudes take hold in
both of us. The two quotes below certainly reflect both ends of the
spectrum of our past.
"I have a voice inside of me. This "voice" sometimes cries
out to be heard, but doesn't have the words to adequately describe
feelings of loss, outrage, despair, or sadness. No one listened to
this voice for over thirty years. It is the voice of a child; the
voice of the lost self. ...The "voice" within me, the voice of the
child within me, is not a voice of authority. It is the voice of
experience. It is the voice of a child who's been there, and survived
against impossible odds." - Ken Scully (October 17, 1989)
"Our deepest fear is not
that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond
measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us. We
ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?
Actually. who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing
small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born
to manifest the glory of God within us. It's not just in some of us,
it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously
give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from
our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
Marianne Williamsom from her
1992 book "Return to Love" p 165