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Updated November 22, 2003

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My writings have played a central role in my healing. Many ask:
"Why are some of your writings so angry (or sad)?"
"Isn’t that much anger (or sadness) bad for you?"
"Isn’t it unhealthy to focus on such negativity?"
"Can’t you just “move on”, and remember the “good times”?"
"Can’t you “just” forgive them, isn’t that what you’re supposed to do?"
"That’s your mother (or father) - aren’t you supposed to love them?"
"Why do you believe you should “air your family’s dirty laundry” in public?"
I believe the answers to these questions are of paramount importance and I have addressed them HERE.

Special Note: My wife and I moved from Northern Maine to the Lowcountry of South Carolina this past Spring; hence the name change from Downeast Maine Survivors to Lowcountry Survivors. We hope this won't cause any confusion. Both of us have changed significantly in the past few years. Things that we thought impossible before have become part of our lives in the present. We never cease to be suprised, nor do we stop growing. Old fears slip away, and newer more useful attitudes take hold in both of us. The two quotes below certainly reflect both ends of the spectrum of our past.

"I have a voice inside of me.  This "voice" sometimes cries out to be heard, but doesn't have the words to adequately describe feelings of loss, outrage, despair, or sadness.  No one listened to this voice for over thirty years.  It is the voice of a child;  the voice of the lost self. ...The "voice" within me, the voice of the child within me, is not a voice of authority.  It is the voice of experience.  It is the voice of a child who's been there, and survived against impossible odds." - Ken Scully (October 17, 1989)

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually. who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around  you. We were born to manifest the glory of God within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we  unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
                                     Marianne Williamsom from her 1992 book "Return to Love" p 165




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